When we are overwhelmed, we feel threatened. Our system floods with hormones like adrenaline and cortisol to help us.

We're in a fight for our life - this is mostly emotional and relational

It takes 20 to 25 minutes for this to clear from our body and brain

Learn the early warning signals so we can disengage or postpone interactions until we calm down

Tell the person - I need a break for 20 minutes and go for a walk

Avoid the blow-ups that are so hard to repair after trust has been compromised