Healthy Mind in Everyday Life
It is helpful to know how these work: emotional self-regulation, co-regulation and emotional maturity.
As we heal from trauma, things settle and we become calmer.
A child can't become self-regulated on their own. We co-regulate.
Our modern culture is very stressful. We lack emotional connection within and with others.
My meditation teacher talked about strengthening our mind. We can understand and support ourselves as we heal the weaknesses in our mind.
Some of the habits in our mind, like judging and shaming ourselves, are actually symptoms of unhealed trauma and core deficiency beliefs. We are triggered by other people because it is reflecting these back to us.
"The effect of trauma is a disconnection from ourselves, our sense of value, and from the present moment." Dr Gabor Maté
Understanding this is the key to healing. We need to safely connect with ourselves deeply.
We develop a strong mind through mindfulness and meditation. We know ourselves and become our own friend.
Analyze your daily life to see how you could limit some activities and do more of beneficial ones.
This friendliness within also transforms our relationships with others.
Basics of a healthy mind in everyday life:
Good nutrition, exercise, sleep
Volunteer, give of yourself
Reduce inputs that cause stress and increase inputs that build resilience