Shaming is a powerful negative experience. Other people's opinions and judgments matter.

Shaming is meant to be used in a context of connection and belonging where we know it is the behavior that is unacceptable

"Shame on you" is devastating, we believe there is something wrong with us

We develop core deficiency beliefs that I am not lovable, not worthy

Human beings experience shaming as a survival level threat

We can survive on our own in modern society yet studies indicate loneliness is the new smoking

The Boomerang and Panorama Inquiry help us see: what does someone reflect back to you about you?

Notice when you are slumping into shame then do the opposite - sit straight, bring your shoulders up and back, eyes up

Teens experience exclusion from their peers as devastating

Bring up an image of someone who has judged you. Hear the words. What does this mean about you?

We believe what our experience tells us and it is not true. We have experienced not being connected.

Mindfulness allows us to see what triggers us from the past

Tools of the Living Inquiries like tapping and tracing are effective to release old beliefs so we can meet each other anew

We begin to assess more accurately and make better decisions. We have more ease in our lives.